by Heather Damia
On the 23rd of
June, 1777, Angelica Schuyler married John Barker Church. The marriage drew
outrage from Angelica’s parents, Philip and Catharine Schuyler, who had not
given their permission for the union, and the elopement sparked a dramatic
conflict involving three generations of the family. Throughout days of heated
arguments, cold disregard, and threats of disinheriting, Angelica and her
parents almost never spoke face-to-face. Negotiations happened largely through
Angelica’s grandparents, and nearly all direct communication between the
Schuylers and their daughter happened through letters. The eldest Schuyler
daughter was the first to marry, and she set a precedent for many of her
younger siblings, three of whom followed her example in ignoring their parents’
wishes regarding their romantic lives.Portrait miniature of John Barker Church
(1748-181) by an unnamed artist.
John Barker Church was certainly not an ideal suitor for
a daughter of one of the most important families in Albany. At the time, the
Englishman was in debt, and worked as an auditor for the Continental Army under
the alias “John Carter.” Because he was known in New York under this false
identity, rather than under his true name, John was very secretive with details
regarding his background, his family, and his past. Specific information about
his family or connections back in England ran the threat of revealing the falsehood
of the “John Carter” identity, so he was limited in what he could reveal
without causing issues for himself with both his family and his new
acquaintances. Shortly after the elopemnet, Philip Schuyler aired his
frustrations in a letter to William Duer, a friend who was also involved in the
ongoing revolution. Philip cited his lack of knowledge regarding the suitor’s
background as a major objection to the marriage, and possibly the primary
reason he was opposed to it: “Carter & my oldest daughter ran off and
married on the 23rd inst., unacquainted with his family, his
connections and situation in life, the match was exceedingly disagreeable to me
and I had signified it to him.” [1] While John’s true identity was eventually
revealed to his in-laws, they continue to refer to him as “Carter” in letters
for quite some time, so it is unclear when his real name was made known to
them.
Not much is definitively
known regarding the courtship of John Barker Church and Angelica Schuyler. They
likely met in 1776, perhaps when “John Carter” was part of a group selected to
audit the accounts of the Northern Department, which was under Philip Schuyler’s
command as a major general, but the details of their first meeting and
subsequent relationship are few and far between. It appears that prior to the
elopement, Angelica and John’s relationship wasn’t a secret romance. Philip’s
inclination to “signify” his disapproval of the match to John hints at the
Schuylers’ awareness of Angelica and John’s courtship. This may imply that the
young couple asked for permission to marry—and were denied. The lack of
permission did not deter them. They eloped on June 23rd, 1777, when
John was 28 years of age, and Angelica was 21. This development came at a
particularly bad time for Philip, who had recently lost the election for
governor, and who was struggling both militarily and politically. His letter to
Duer also features extensive complaints about the state of politics at the
time, and frustration with his loss, which he felt was unjust. The elopement
was yet another unpleasant surprise to return home to.
Naturally, Angelica’s
parents reacted rather poorly to the marriage. Their objections were so strong
that it seems they cast out their own daughter in anger. At the very least,
they made her feel unwelcome enough that she, along with her husband, left the
house to find another place to stay. The newlyweds sought the aid of Angelica’s
maternal grandfather, Johannes van Rensselaer, who lived across the Hudson
River from Schuyler Mansion at Fort Crailo in “Greenbush” (current day
Rensselaer) with his wife, Catharine’s stepmother. In a letter to Walter
Livingston dated to July 2nd, John explained: “we stopped at
GreenBush on Thursday Afternoon, where we were received by the amiable and
venerable Proprietors with the Greatest Friendship and cordiality and instantly
heard Promises of all their influence being exerted in our favor.” [2] Their
hosts were very generous, and their treatment of the young couple was “beyond
description charming and affectionate”—a stark contrast to the coldness of
Philip and Catharine Schuyler.Angelica Schuyler Church circa 1780s,
attributed to Richard Cosway.
The van Rensselaers
quickly made good on their promise to help the new Mr. and Mrs. Church. In the
same letter, John detailed days worth of peacemaking attempts on the part of
Angelica’s grandfather and his wife. Their first attempt to encourage reconciliation
was to pass along a letter from Angelica and her husband to Philip and
Catharine, who were residing at their home in Saratoga at the time. John wrote:
“The General and Mrs S had not arrived here and Mrs. Rennsillear desired the
major to go with our Letter to Saratoga. Next morning; he met them at
Stillwater coming down on Friday, they took the letter and sent him on…” This
effort to connect with Angelica’s parents seems to have been in vain, however.
Philip and Catharine returned from Albany and took up residence across the
river at Schuyler Mansion that very afternoon, but the letter received no
response, either that day or the next. Initial attempts at reconciliation were
met with silence.
They tried again on
Monday—the Churches once again fled into Albany to leave a clear path for the
Schuylers to visit Crailo, and this time, the meeting actually occurred.
Unfortunately, John’s letter described it as a very tense exchange:Portrait of Philip Schuyler, Angelica Schuyler
Church’s father, from 1792 by artist John Trumbull.
[…] the General scarcely
spoke a dozen Words all the Time, Mrs S was in almost violent Passion and said
all that Rage of Resentment could inspire…she exasperated [van Rensselaer], and
he told her that he didn’t know who she took after, he was sure not after her
Father and Mother…and that he was convinced I would make his child an
affectionate Husband, that they might do as they please, but if they would not
be reconciled to us, he would look upon us as his Children and that we should
stay at his House…
An outburst from Mrs.
Schuyler was met with a sharp rebuke from her father: a threat to “look upon
[the Churches] as his Children,” possibly suggesting that Catharine’s
inheritance could be given to her estranged daughter in her stead. The
Schuylers insisted that Angelica and her husband should have talked to them
when they encountered one another on Sunday, and should have written to them
again, but the van Rensselaers argued that the young couple could not be
expected to send more letters when their first had been ignored. The
negotiations were ultimately concluded when the Schuylers finally agreed to
respond to any messages the Churches sent. They did as they had promised, and
while John described their responses as cold, they did agree to have their daughter
and son-in-law for a visit at Schuyler Mansion.
John described the
Schuylers as treating him and his wife “as cooly as their letter promised.” He
presented a rather dramatic and emotional meeting, in which he begged Catharine
to accept them back into the family, and implored Philip to “forget what was
past.” From Philip’s point of view, however, this meeting seemed to have been
largely a formality. Philip’s letter to William Duer stated: “as there is no
untying this gordian knot I took what I hope you will think the prudent part: I
frowned, I made them humble themselves forgave and called them home.” Philip
described the meeting as something of a power play—an assertion of authority
over his daughter and son-in-law to make them feel as though they must “humble
themselves” to earn his approval. Despite this show of authority, it seems his
mind was settled on forgiveness before the Churches arrived and made their
declarations. Philip’s conversation with his father-in-law and the negotiations
via letters were seemingly enough to settle him on this course, but the
conversation allowed him to set himself in a position of power over the man who
ran off with his daughter, promising to “take the Freedom of giving [John]
advice when he thought [he] stood in need of it with the Candor of a Parent…”
John, of course, said what he knew would appease Philip: “I thanked him and
told him I should be much obliged to him for it and would always pay a
deference to it…” John and Angelica continued to feel unwelcome and unforgiven,
believing that the Schuylers had only made peace out of “Fear of disobliging Mr
R if they continue their Coldness”, but Philip, at least, claimed to have moved
on and accepted the situation.
upheaval in the
Schuyler family was no exception. Much of the negotiations conducted regarding
the marriage occurred through letters, but, unfortunately, not all of the letters
seemed to have survived to the present day. The two letters cited in this post
provide a different—but still valuable—perspective, as they tell us how the men
involved perceived the events. As both men wrote to someone removed from the
situation, it’s possible they were more honest about their feelings in these
letters than they might have been in their letters to one of the people
involved in the whole affair. However, it remains unclear what the Churches and
Schuylers actually said to one another in these messages back and forth across
the river. What justifications might Angelica and her husband have given for
their actions? Did they beg forgiveness, express regret? Were the Schuylers
truly as frigid as John described them to be? The letters so central to the
events of this Schuyler family story cannot provide us with intimate knowledge
of how the people involved actually addressed one another. The most glaring
absence is the lack of sources directly from the women: the daughter who eloped
and the mother driven to “a most violent Passion” by the betrayal. The women’s
reactions are described by John—“Angelica is much distressed”—but their own
thoughts are notably absent in the narrative. The exact thoughts, feelings, and
details surrounding the elopement may remain a mystery, but through the two
different accounts, we’re at least able to reconstruct the bare bones of this
dramatic chapter in the Schuyler family story.
[1] Letter from Philip
Schuyler to William Duer from July 3-5, 1777, in the New York Public Library
Schuyler Papers.
[2] Letter from John Barker Church to Walter Livingston from July 2, 1777.